Stressed out about the ever-piling workload? Panicking over the looming deadlines? For days when you’re not feeling 100 per cent and need a little TLC, these simple self-care tips will have you perking back up in no time. You deserve it!
#1 Identify your addictions
When we think of bad addictive habits, we think of drinking, smoking, gambling, and doing drugs. But unhealthy addictions can be more subtle – it could be sticking with a bad partner because you’re scared of feeling unwanted, or burning yourself out to get straight As because you need everything to be perfect all the time. Are these things helping or harming you? Do they really make you happy? It’s time for a review.
#2 Rein in the green-eyed monster
All through our lives, we’re taught that in order to be on top, we need to beat out others – whether it’s to have better grades or flashier clothes than your peers. The world (thankfully) doesn’t operate like that. While some people will work themselves to death trying to outdo others, you should know that them having more does not mean you have less. Instead, you can be happy for other people’s successes while celebrating your own too.
#3 Watch out for frenemies
Friends ultimately want the best for each other but sometimes don’t react well to change. When you’re trying to improve yourself or ditch bad habits, your pals may assume you’ll become a different person and dump them sooner or later. For example, if your clique’s hangout spot is at a fast food joint but you’ve decided to eat more healthily, they might make fun of your new diet, influencing you to think of giving up. Reassure your friends that there’s nothing to worry about, and you can even invite them to pick up better habits. Alternatively, if you have truly moved on from the group, know that there’s nothing wrong with that too.
#4 Focus on gains, not losses
Studies have shown that we tend to get hung up on setbacks, and it’s perfectly understandable. Sadness and anger are very intense emotions that are hard to let go of, but it’s important to understand that these feelings are also not useful. Instead, reframe unfavourable experiences in a positive and constructive way by reflecting on everything you’ve learned or achieved because of the incident. The saying “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” is popular for a reason.
#5 Be your own best friend
Learn to love yourself. How would you feel if you knew your best friends called themselves “stupid”, “ugly”, or “fat”? How would you feel if others called them that? It would be unacceptable, yet so many of us heap these ugly labels on ourselves without a second thought. There’s also that puzzling culture of one-upping each other on self- deprecating insults, which can affect your confidence if you end up believing these fallacies. The next time someone dismisses themselves, tell them to stop and don’t be tempted to contribute to a meaningless conversation. Similarly, think of your own feelings before you say something hurtful about yourself.
#6 Don’t silence yourself
Being nice to others doesn’t mean discounting your own feelings. It’s okay to take up space in the world! If you feel that something is not right or that you aren’t being treated fairly, speak up. Doing so might make you feel uncomfortable at first, but you can start with small things like correcting the way people have been mispronouncing your name, or asking a friend to return money they owe. Be tactful, but also firm, straightforward, and unapologetic.
#7 Take care of yourself
You don’t always have to save nice things for special occasions. Once in a while, it’s good to treat yourself to new clothes, a pedicure or massage for no reason other than to make yourself happy. Doesn’t everyone like a random sweet gesture? You can be generous to yourself anytime.